Here’s a sure-fire way to know that you hate women: when an incident of intimate partner violence in which a man knocks a woman unconscious gains national attention and every question or comment you think to make has to do with her behavior, you really hate women. Like, despise.How to know that you hate women (via velveteenrabbit)
we’ve taught girls to romanticise nearly everything a boy does. when i was younger i thought it was cute that boys chased the girl even after she said no. i loved it when after a girl moved away from a kiss, the guy would pull her back and force it on. i thought a guy saying ‘i won’t take a no for an answer’ was passionate and romantic. we’re literally always teaching girls to romanticise abusive traits.
Commander Vimes didn’t like the phrase ‘The innocent have nothing to fear’, believing the innocent had everything to fear, mostly from the guilty but in the longer term even more from those who say things like ‘The innocent have nothing to fear’.Terry Pratchett (via beornwulf)
If you claim to be an activist and say “it’s not my job to educate you” then you’re a pretty terrible activist. the point of activism is to advocate for your cause, spread information and try to get people to understand your goals. If you refuse to even help people understand, then you’re a pretty terrible activist and will probably turn people off of your cause.
Not everyone you meet who is marginalized is an activist. Like everyone else, marginalized people would like to live first, and take care of themselves first, because otherwise how else can they do anything?
Even if the person is an activist, activists need downtime, as well, because they’re people. What, an activist is supposed to be on the clock 24 × 7 or else they’re a terrible activist? You can’t tell me that’s right. Activists aren’t there to serve you. Are activists measured by customer satisfaction now?
Is that what your education has become, the consumption of a product, proffered by ever-smiling, ever-patient, ever-understanding subalterns who can tailor the message they’re supposed to give to your comfort, to give you enough space to grow and yet not alienate you?
Or else what? You won’t do anything about it? You’ll continue being complicit? You’ll continue abusing people? You’ll continue being silent? You’ll continue blaming the victim? You’ll continue perpetuating injustice?
You can see how this is problematic?
You can’t? Well, it’s not my job to provide you with the empathy to understand the internal workings of another person. You should have picked up that shit when you were a toddler, and if you didn’t, I don’t know what else I can do for you.